Kate Heavey BA (Hons) BACP Accredited - Individual, Couple, Marriage and Two's Counselling in Alfold, Cranleigh, Surrey. Online and Telephone therapy across the UK. 

Clients who come to see me often feel like something is wrong with them, even when on the outside life looks fine. What I see, again and again, are patterns that were learned earlier in life and have never been understood. 

This can look like saying you are fine when you are not, pulling away before someone leaves you, putting everyone else first and losing sight of yourself, or shutting down after a life change. Or the need to be in control, perfectionism, or never feeling good enough.  These are not personality flaws. They are learned ways of coping to stay in relationship. 

Much of how you respond today has roots in what you learned earlier in life.

I work with individuals, couples and twos who are finding life or relationships harder than they want them to be.  This includes experiences of loss, childhood neglect, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, and patterns that do not seem to shift such as alcohol or food misuse. 

I am based in Alfold, near Cranleigh in Surrey, and offer in-person counselling.

Online and telephone counselling are offered across the UK.

I have been in private practice since 2014 and have delivered over 10,000 therapy hours.

Appointment Availability

**Update 5 May 2026**

Current availability: -

In-person, Online or Telephone - Tuesday 3.30pm, Wednesday 9.30am or Wednesday 2pm.

Additional Online or Telephone only - Monday 2pm or Thursday 11am.

Please contact me if a weekly time suits you stating whether it is in-person, online or telephone therapy you are requiring.

Single sessions can be booked here:-

https://www.harmoniouscounselling.com/single-session-therapy

Individual Counselling and Psychotherapy

No one starts off in life thinking that they will end up in counselling, but what is important is that you are here right now and the reasons you are here are unique to you. 

These may include:

• Feeling low, unfulfilled, or dissatisfied with life
• Loneliness, isolation, or feeling misunderstood
• Negative self-talk or a sense of not feeling good enough
• The impact of earlier life experience, including neglect, trauma, or shame
• Difficulties in relationships
• Family dynamic difficulties
• Coping patterns that no longer feel helpful
• Alcohol or food misuse
• Life events such as bereavement, redundancy, or separation

You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what is happening as therapy offers a space for us to make sense and bring understanding. 

And if you are asking yourself 'am I good enough'?
The answer is 'absolutely yes'.

Find out more about individual counselling.

Couple, Relationship and Two's Counselling and Psychotherapy

Relationship counselling is not only for couples in a crisis. It is for any two people who want to understand each other more clearly, communicate without it feeling like a battleground, or work through something that has become stuck.

Some of the reasons you may be here:

• Repeating the same argument with no way through it
• Betrayal, affairs, and the question of whether trust can be rebuilt
• Distance, disconnection, or a loss of intimacy
• Resentment that has built up over time
• One or both of you bringing unresolved past issues into the relationship
• The impact of a major life event such as becoming parents, a bereavement, or a child leaving home
• Family conflict or estrangement
• Thinking about separation or trying to avoid it

When we are hurting, we tend to look outward at what the other person is doing or not doing. I often say 'blame avoids pain',

Relationship therapy creates a space for you both to be heard, seen and understood, where the patterns between you become visible and where something different becomes possible.

One way I work with two people in the counselling room is through what I call the 3 A's — Awareness, Accountability and Action. In therapy, I encourage your individual Awareness, individual Accountability, and for each of you to take different Action in order to change your relational dynamic.

Please know that I work with couples who want to stay together, and with couples who are considering separation, but I do not work with couples who have already decided to split.

Find out more about couple and relationship counselling.

Who I work with

I work with adults (18+)  as individuals, couples and “two’s” across a range of experiences

This includes:

• Relationship and communication difficulties
• Bereavement, grief and loss
• Anxiety, loneliness, and emotional overwhelm
• Low self-esteem and self-worth
• Family dynamics and earlier life experiences
• Life transitions and changes in direction
• Coping patterns such as alcohol use or binge eating
• Feelings such as anger, shame, or not being enough

Please know these labels are to offer clarification if I may be the right counsellor for you; you are so much more than a label.

What counselling can offer

My approach is relational. I tailor therapy to suit you because there is no one size fits all.

I sit alongside you as a fellow fallible human being. I am not a blank screen. I bring warmth, openness and a willingness to be real, so you know you are not alone.

Through our work, you will have:

• A clearer understanding of yourself and your patterns
• More awareness of how you respond and why
• The ability to make different choices
• Being more able to be you, whether on your own or in relationships
• Feeling more able to respond to others without becoming overwhelmed
• Feeling more content within yourself and with others

When understanding arrives, when the past stops feeling like the present, when a pattern that felt like your personality starts to feel less fixed, when you realise you have been self protecting rather than simply being who you are, this is when you know therapy is working.

You may notice a sense of settling in the body, a releasing of shame, an experience of “Ah, I get it now. This is why I came to therapy".

Find out more about me and how I work.

Online and Telephone Counselling

From 2014 I have offered online and telephone counselling. 

Zoom is my preferred method yet therapy can be delivered by other mediums of communication, i.e., Microsoft Teams, WhatsApp, Signal. 

Teletherapy remains popular.

Online work is now a well-established and effective way of accessing therapy, offering flexibility around your life and commitments.

Working remotely means location is no longer a barrier, and I work with clients across the UK.

Find out more about online and telephone counselling.

Single-Session Therapy

Single-session therapy is available for individuals and couples who are unable to commit to weekly sessions.

It offers a focused session to explore one specific issue, to bring clarity and a sense of direction.

Single session therapy is not a substitute for ongoing therapy, but it can be a useful starting point when weekly commitment is not possible right now.

Please note — if you are in a position to commit to weekly work, that is where deeper and more meaningful change happens.

Click here to book Single-Session Therapy (if all days show 'closed' then it means I am fully booked for next week).

A Human Space in a Digital World

A core belief in my work is that we get injured in relationship and we heal in relationship.

In a digital world, many people turn to AI or online spaces to think things through.

What I offer is something different.

A real human space for us to think things through together and gently make sense of what is happening for you.  A connection where you are genuinely met, heard and understood. Not a tool responding to your words, but a person sitting with you in that moment, helping you carry your life load.

I offer a real relationship which can be taken out into your world. For many people, the experience of being truly seen, without judgement, without an agenda, is when meaningful change begins.

Find out more about online and telephone counselling.

Cost

Finding the right therapist matters more than finding any therapist. That is why I offer the first session complimentary for individuals, or just £50 for couples, so you can get a sense of whether working together feels right for you.

Individual — first session complimentary, then £65 per 60 minute session

Couple — first session £50 (includes pre-assessment), then £85 per 60 minute session

Trainee counsellors — £50 per 60 minute session

Reduced daytime rates are available for individuals (£60) and couples (£80).  Please mention this when you get in touch. 

I am a recognised therapist for Bupa, Aviva, AXA, WPA and Vitality Health employee assistance programmes.

Find out more about costs and frequently asked questions.

Location - Alfold (near Cranleigh, Surrey, GU6)

Location – Alfold (near Cranleigh, Surrey)

I offer in-person counselling from my 'room in the garden' in Alfold, Cranleigh, Surrey. 

There is driveway parking and easy access.

I offer online and telephone counselling across the UK.

Contact

Please click here to contact me directly.

Email: harmoniouscounselling@gmail.com

Telephone 07941 305511
My answering machine is confidential.
Please note:- If your number is not familiar, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am unaware of your personal circumstances. 

Text / WhatsApp 07941 305511

Closing thought

Carl Jung said "I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become."

What will you choose to become today?

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