Kate Heavey BA (Hons) BACP Accredited - Individual and Couple / Marriage psychotherapist / counsellor. Online, Telephone and In-Person Alfold (Surrey). Zoom online and teletherapy counsellor.
I am a qualified and experienced counsellor, psychotherapist and relationship practitioner.
I am a proud accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy - click here to visit the BACP's website.
Who am I?
I have over 35 years' experience of professional relationships including corporate, caring and helping professions and I have extensive knowledge of people. I firmly believe that 'people buy people'.
My work in mental health started with conditions like chronic depression, anxiety and anger. I then realised my true passion was in looking at the underlying cause of these symptoms and I started to see this was relationship, and trauma from being in relationship, and I became interested in the quality of the relationship formed between the person and person / external world.
Curious Kate....why is it that some people thrive with inner resilience, determination and grit and others suffer with anxiety, depression and isolation? Is it really just about survival and attachment? We are learning so much more about neuro science and the link between genes, nature and nurture. The individuality, and complexity, of humans really amazes me! Are we not all conditioned and a product of our environment, of those younger years, which are still informing us today? (Btw, if you are reading this, you are likely to be a thriver rather than survivor as you want change).
I am a true advocater of work / life balance. For my own self-care I relish being outside whether in the garden, visiting a National Trust place, walking along the beach, doing walking challenges or making childlike noises at a theme park or to fireworks! As much as possible I try to understand all parts of me and that is my wish for you too.
My Own Counselling Journey
Now realising I scored very high on the 'ACEs test', it is not surprising that I had been to counselling a couple of times along my own life path trying to find answers to why I had some of the symptoms / behaviours I did. As part of my degree, I went back into counselling for an additional 60 hours where I learnt more about how I worked as a human being. Additionally, across my life I had been in groups (some re-traumatising and some healing) and I was in a group at college / university where I learnt about my rescuer part and how to respond instead. I learnt to 'feel my feels' rather than escaping them. A wounded healer if you like.
My own philosophy truly is 'be the change you wish to see in the world' (Gandhi). I firmly believe, with the right conditions, we can all grow and live a fulfilling contented life yet some of us are not in nourishing environments or we do not know how to thrive in the environments.
Today I attend counselling, when necessary, as this helps me counsel clients with minimal impact of my own life experience.
How I Work
My style of counselling - Relational Integrative Counselling
I trained as an relational integrative counsellor as I love relationship. This modality offers varying counselling approaches so I can tailor therapy to suit you; the individual, couple or two. This approach works well as we are all unique and special and therefore not a 'one size fits all'.
I very much see my role as having compassion, listening, reflecting, championing, supporting, tentatively challenging and offering insight using my experience , wisdom and training whilst sitting alongside you as a fellow fallible human being. I do not give advice or tell you what to do.
Freud suggested that counsellors should be 'blank screens' offering nothing yet I will, if appropriate, self-disclose if in your interest. This is part of reparative work as we want to know we are like others (twinship).
Ultimately, the success and effectiveness of your counselling is dependent on how open, honest and willing you are to look at aspects of your own life and how you implement what you learn in our sessions into your daily life.
Professional experience
I set up private practice in 2014.
Alongside my private work I had the privilege of working as a volunteer counsellor at Sam Beare Hospice in Weybridge where I counselled family members experiencing loss and I gained experience working at RASASC (Rape And Sexual Abuse Support Centre) in Guildford.
I have a current DBS (Disclosure and Barring Service) which enables me to work with vulnerable adults.
Qualifications
Qualifications
BACP Accredited Counsellor / Psychotherapist
BA (Hons) Degree Counselling - Greenwich University
FdSc Degree Integrative Counselling - Greenwich University
NCFE 3 - Counselling Skills Theory
NCFE 2 - Counselling (Helping) Skills
NCFE 1 - Interpersonal Skills
Additional Couple Qualifications
Advanced Certificate in Relationship Therapy - COSRT
Graduate of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy Training under Ellyn Bader Ph.D. at The Couples Institute (integrating Attachment Theory, Differentiation Theory and Neuroscience)
Online Courses
How to Work Safely and Ethically with Online Clients
Moving Your Practice Online (Online Therapy Institute)
How to do Counselling Online: A Coronavirus Primer (Open University and BACP course)
Walk and Talk Therapy
Walk and Talk - Therapy In The Outdoors (Creative Counsellors)
Additional Training and Workshops informing my work include: -
The Fundamentals of Working with Couples (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, COSRT)
Working With Couples: Dealing with Affairs (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, COSRT)
Communication and Difference (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, COSRT)
Meeting Partners Needs (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, COSRT)
Couples in Conflict (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, COSRT)
Sex Arousal and Ageing (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, COSRT)
Introduction to use of Attachment Theory When Working With Couples (International Attachment Network)
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) Workshop
Working with addiction: underlying causes
Recovery from Alcoholism (12 step program)
Addiction Informed Training (Dr Gabor Maté)
Relationships as mirrors of our trauma (Dr Gabor Maté and Esther Perel)
UK and European Symposium on Addictive Disorders
What's wrong with porn? The rising prevalence of sex and pornography addiction (Paula Hall)
Working with obesity - looking at food addiction and binge eating disorder
Body Image: Skin, Identity, and the Gaze in Psychotherapy (Linda Cundy and Dr Nicole Schnackenberg).
Treating Shame, Tools and Techniques
Working with Shame (Sue Parker Hall)
Avoidant Attachment: Shame and Defences Against Intimacy (Linda Cundy)
Exploring Sibling Relationships with an Attachment Perspective
The Neurobiology of Shame (Dan Siegel)
Sexualised Trauma and the Window of Tolerance
Somatic Experiencing (Peter Levine)
The Body Keeps the Score: Working with Childhood Sexual Abuse (Christiane Sanderson)
Working With Survivors of Domestic Abuse (Christiane Sanderson)
Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Self-Alienation (Dr Janina Fisher)
Rewind Technique (David Muss)
Working with Ritual Abuse
Working with Survivors of Domestic Abuse (Christiane Sanderson)
Understanding Coercive Control (Professor Evan Stark)
Attachment and Well Being (Sir Richard Bowlby)
Understanding and Working with Anxiously Attached Clients (Linda Cundy)
Perspectives on Interpretation: What makes a good interpretation in Therapy?
Internal Family Systems (Dr Richard Schwartz)
Effective Anger Management Tools for Working with Men
7 Keys for Working Successfully with Men in Therapy (Parts 1, 2 and 3)
Effective Anger Management Tools for Working with Men
Loss models (Tonkins, Dual Process, Worden)
Working with Grief (David Kessler)
Working with Bereaved Clients
Understanding Birth Trauma Workshop
Narcissism & Echoism
Mental Health and working with depression and anxiety
Mindfulness (8 week course)
Vicarious Trauma
Working with Dreams
Adapting Therapy for People on the Autism Spectrum
Working with ADHD
Working with Vulnerable Adults
NAPPI training
Single-Session therapy (Maximising the effect of every therapeutic or coaching encounter) - Windy Dryden
Plus many more and on-going continued professional development (CPD) and clinical supervision.
As a BACP member I adhere to the BACP Ethical Framework which advises I have at least 30 hours CPD per year and a minimum of 90 minutes supervision a month (as a safe practitioner, believing there is much learning to do in this world, I exceed both requirements).
For my own self-care, and life enjoyment, when not working you will find me spending time with family and friends, visiting National Trust places, down at the beach, doing walking challenges, at theme parks, gardening, and/or eating ice-cream! Oh, and I love to be near water and, one day, hope to realise my dream of living back near water. I am a true advocater of work/life balance.
Contact
Contact from website
Please click here to contact me directly from this website.
Email Contact
Email harmoniouscounselling@gmail.com
I will email you back the same day if a working day. Please be rest assured emails are confidential and only seen by me.
Telephone Contact
Call 07941 305511
If I am unable to answer please leave a brief message informing me of your enquiry along with your name, telephone number and when it is a good time for me to call you back.
Please note:- If your number is not familiar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am aware this could be dangerous without knowing your individual situation.
My answering machine is confidential and your message will only be listened to by me.
Text / WhatsApp Contact
Text 07941 305511 to make an appointment.
If I am in an appointment I may not be able to answer you straight away yet I will get back to you as soon as I am able to.
Contemplating Therapy?
If you feel you are not quite ready to commit to an appointment please feel free to message me. I have been where you are now and I am happy to help with your transition.
"We are biologically wired for connection - when something happens along life's journey and we get disconnected, counselling helps finds a way to re-connect'’ (Kate - Harmonious Counselling)
KATE HEAVEY BA (Hons) BACP (Accredited)
INDIVIDUAL AND COUPLES COUNSELLING CRANLEIGH (SURREY). COUNSELLING PETWORTH. PSYCHOTHERAPY GODALMING. COUNSELLOR BILLINGSHURST. ONLINE ZOOM COUNSELLOR. TELETHERAPY.
