Kate Heavey BA (Hons) FdSc BACP (Accredited) - Alcohol dependent / alcohol addiction /alcohol problem counselling. Alcohol abuse psychotherapy. Alcoholism therapy. Individuals, partners and families impacted by alcohol in their relationships.(Surrey). Online alcohol addiction counselling offered via Zoom, Signal, WhatsApp and the phone.
The aim of this page is to to help you decide if you have an issue with alcohol and, if you do, what you would like to do about it.
What is known is that when we drink alcohol, it can have an impact on health and wellbeing. This can range from headaches, sleepless nights and feeling 'down' to high blood pressure and anxiety. Alcohol is a contributor to cancer. Many of these wide ranging symptoms impact so many of us. This is why I feel clearer information is needed as the harm of this legal substance is often glossed over and we see alcohol being romanticed.
You can contact me in confidence to discuss what is happening (don't let shame keep you away!).
Questions to ask yourself:-
Is alcohol centre stage in your life with all else revolving around it?
Do you find once you start are you unable to stop?
Are the consequences of your drinking getting worse?
Are you losing family, friends, relationships and/or jobs?
Do you drink for escapism? i.e., to block out pain, life events, emotions or to alleviate stress?
Has your world got smaller leaving you feeling isolated and alone because it is centre stage?
Is your health a concern for you (or others)?
Have others commented that you are 'Jekyll and Hyde' or angry / rsentful when drunk?
Do you feel you have will-power to do everything else in life yet get confused as you cannot stop drinking?
Have you tried 'controlled drinking' only to fail?
If you answer 'yes' to any of these, you are not alone. Support is available and the very fact you are here is the first step in getting help yet, now, it it about taking further action in contacting me if you want your life, and relationship to alcohol, to change.
Myth busting
To be dependent on alcohol you do not have to be moneyless, homeless or sat on a bench (although many think that is where a person dependent on alcohol ends up). It may be you are functioning whilst using to deal with / escape from life. So,right now, you have everything, just!
If you are physically active in your drinking then the chances are you may have lost the power of ‘choosing’ alcohol as you may be physically dependent and your body will crave alcohol once you take that first drink. At this stage, self-will, swearing off of it, changing your drink, delaying the time you start, etc. will all be to no avail.
Drinking does not have to be 24/7 and it is not about how much you drink it is about why you drink. To some, a couple of glasses of beer, wine, spirits, etc. can be too much whilst to others a couple of bottles of vodka is not enough! Alcohol misusers come in a variety of shapes and forms.
So how can counselling help alcohol usage?
If you are a heavy drinker / social drinker than moderation will be possible; this work includes looking at the reasons for the escalation of use.
If you are alcohol dependent / alcohol addicted, with an allergy to alcohol, then abstinence may be the only way forward if you feel you are not able to safely drink.
As a counsellor, I will support you and be alongside you in your journey as we openly look at your drinking patterns.
We will work on whether you are a social, heavy or alcoholic drinker so you can decide what path is right for you.
The elements of the cycle we will look at are:
- Dormant (what is fuelling your 'pour me')
- Trigger, although I prefer the word 'reactors' (i.e. loneliness, supressing feelings, resentment, self-punishment)
- Preparation (this is what happens before you act out)
- Acting-out (the actual drinking itself)
- Regret (how you feel when you have 'done it again')
- Rebuilding (life goes back to normal for a while before the cycle repeats)
(Addiction Cycle, Dr Paula Hall)
This forms a template for addiction which, together, we can work on you understanding.
Remember: If you always do, what you have always done, you will always get, what you have always got.
Contact
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Email harmoniouscounselling@gmail.com
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Call 07941 305511
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Please note:- If your number is not familiar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am aware this could be dangerous without knowing your individual situation.
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If I am in an appointment I may not be able to answer you straight away yet I will get back to you as soon as I am able to.
Not ready yet?
If you feel you are not quite ready to commit to an appointment please feel free to message me. I have been where you are now and I am happy to help with your transition.
Can you identify with this quote......."A man who drinks too much on occasion is still the same man as he was sober. An alcoholic, a real alcoholic, is not the same man at all. You can't predict anything about him for sure except that he will be someone you never met before." RAYMOND CHANDLER, The Long Goodbye
KATE HEAVEY BA (Hons) BACP (Accredited) - ALCOHOL ADDICTION COUNSELLOR IN SURREY. ALCOHOL DEPENDENCY CRANLEIGH. ALCOHOL PSYCHOTHERAPY. ZOOM ALCOHOL PROBLEM COUNSELLOR. ALCOHOL MISUSE WEST SUSSEX.
